Antisocial Personality Disorder
Someone who is diagnosed as having an antisocial personality disorder is someone who does not seem to have a conscience. The person can hurt others, lie, steal, or even commit a murder without seeming to having any remorse. This personality disorder may have its root in generational curses. It may also come from modeling and having poor examples to follow. It may even come from responding out of love hunger. The person does it to get attention or control the situation. Then individual act repeatedly in an antisocial manner until they sear their conscience. If you have come to recognize that you have such a disorder, then the following outline may be of value to you. (Notes for counselors at the bottom).
First, you must come to understand the fear of the LORD. One with this disorder usually does not connect the action with the consequence to the action. These two concepts need to be connected. The fear of the LORD is knowing that God has laid out in His Word what is acceptable actions and what are not acceptable actions. It is also an understanding that God responds with consequences to unacceptable action. "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction" (Proverbs 1:7). Therefore, this is a beginning point. "The fear of the LORD is to hate evil: pride, and arrogancy, and the evil way, and the froward mouth, do I hate" (Proverbs 8:13). As the Word introduces the fear of the LORD into your life, you will come to hate evil. "The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding" (Proverbs 9:10). It is then that you will come to see life from God's perspective. "The fear of the LORD is clean, enduring for ever: the judgments of the LORD are true and righteous altogether" (Psalms 19:9). When you come to fear the Lord, you will come to place of opportunity to clear your conscience.
Second, you most come to get a clear conscience for all past sin. Past sin is often an open door for the enemy to bring guilt and fear. These thoughts isolate you from the love of God. The David gives a graphic picture of what happened when he kept his sins secret. He said, "When I kept silence, my bones waxed old through my roaring all the day long" Psalms 32:3). David opened himself to a physical attack from the enemy. Paul says that one may become shipwrecked because they don't have a clear conscience. "Holding faith, and a good conscience; which some having put away concerning faith have made shipwreck:" (I Timothy 1;19). Paul also explained that he sought to have a clear conscience before man and God. "And herein do I exercise myself, to have always a conscience void of offence toward God, and toward men" (Acts 24:16). There are basically three ways to get a clear conscience. If the offense is toward God, then you must ask for God's forgiveness and cleansing. John wrote, "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" (I John 1:9). With an attitude of repentance, you simply ask for forgiveness and healing with God. If someone has offended you, you are to forgive them. If you have offended someone else, then you are to ask their forgiveness and be willing to make restitution if needed. You also need to be willing to receive forgiveness when it is offered. Also, you must be willing to forgive yourself.
Third, you must come to understand that temptation is not sin. Quite often I counsel an individual who feels like that he must be a really bad person because he is being tempted. Satan is there to confirm this lie. Again, Satan uses guilt to weaken the will of the individual. The author to the Hebrews states concerning Jesus, "For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted" (Hebrews 2:18). If Jesus, himself, was tempted, then it must not be a sin to be tempted. Every person is tempted. Temptation is not sin. It is only when you choose by your own will to entertain thoughts of sinning that the temptation become sin. However, if you put yourself into a position to be tempted and then expected God to protect you, then you are tempting God. "Jesus said unto him, It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God" (Matthew 4:7).
Fourth, you must realized that Jesus was tempted in every way that you are. Again, the Word of God says, "For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succour them that are tempted" (Hebrew 2:18). It is probably not unusual for you to be deceived by the enemy into thinking that no one else has been tempted as you are being tempted. However, Jesus was. Jesus was tempted in every way that you are tempted (Matthew 4:1-11). He was tempted with lust of the flesh, with the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life (I John 2:16). Paul also wrote, "There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God [is] faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it" (I Corinthian 10:13). You must come to see that you are not alone in being tempted. Peter states, "Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as thought some strange thing happened unto you" (I Peter 4:12).
Fifth, you must come to understand that Jesus overcame every recorded temptation by using the Word against the tempter (Matthew 4:1-11). Jesus said, "It is written, Man shall not live by bread alone, but every word that proceedeth out of the mouth of God" (Matthew 4:4). He said, "It is written again, Thou shalt not tempt the Lord thy God" (Matthew 4:7). Again Jesus said, "Get thee hence, Satan for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shall thou serve" (Matthew 4:10). Jesus is your example. With each temptation he used the Word. Therefore, you can also use the Word in the same way.
Sixth, you should come to believe that Jesus died for all your sin. Here is the order of events. First, the Law required the death penalty by hanging. "And if a man have commmitted a sin worth of death, and he be to be put to death, and thou hang him on a tree" (Deuteronomy 21:22). Second, Jesus took all your sins upon himself. "For Christ also hath one suffered for sin, the just for the unjust, that he might bring us to God, being put to death in the flesh, but quickened by the Spirit" (I Peter 3:18). Third, Jesus suffered the cross in your place. "Christ hath redeemed us from the curse of the law, being made a curse for us; for it is written, Cursed is every one that hangeth on a tree" (Galatians 3:13). Therefore, when you are tempted to sin, you should see that Jesus died on the cross for the sin that you are about to commit. This is aversive thinking to stop you from committing the sin.
Seventh, you must come to pray and to submit yourself unto the Lord. You can not be doing God's will and sin at the same time. Paul writes, "This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh" (Galatians 5:17). Jesus is your example. Paul states concerning Jesus, "And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and become obedient unto death, even death of the cross" (Philippians 2:8). Before you can effectively resist Satan, you must submit yourself unto God. James writes, "Submit your selves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you" (James 4:7).
Eighth, you need to understand that Jesus resisted Satan. Look again at Matthew 4:10, "Then saith Jesus unto him, Get thee hence, Satan: for it is written, Thou shalt worship the Lord thy God, and him only shalt thou serve" I find many people who just lay down and allow Satan to run over them like a Mack truck. You need to learn to resist Satan. Again, "Resist the devil, and he will flee from you" (James 4:7). Peter writes, "Whom resist stedfast in the faith, knowing that the same afflictions are accomplished in you brethren that are in the world" (I Peter 5:9). It is just as important to resist the devil as it is to submit unto God when facing temptation.
Ninth, you must begin to engraft God's Word into your life. To engraft is to memorize it and let it become a reality in your life. Unless you come to have a knowledge of God's Word and can quote it, you can not know how to follow God or resist the devil. David declared in the Psalms, "Thy word have I hid in mine heart, that I might not sin against thee" (Psalm 119:11). When you know God's Word, then you can discern when the enemy has come to tempt you. You, by the Word, can recognize the temptation. Also, when you know the Word, you are able to use it as the offensive weapon against the devil. James writes, "Wherefore lay apart all filthiness and superfluity of naughtiness, and receive with meekness the engrafted word, which is able to save your souls" (James 1:21). The engrafted Word saved your mind from wrong thoughts, your will from wrong decisions, and your emotions from being out of control.
Tenth, you must learn how to counter attack. Paul concludes his topic of spiritual warfare by saying, "Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints" Ephesians 6:18). When the enemy attack you, you should be ready with a counter attack. You should have the name of someone in mind to pray for when the enemy attack you with temptation. This gets your attention off the area of temptation and places it upon God. The enemy will soon give up the battle when he sees that he is losing ground.
How may a counselor effectively deal with this disorder? As with any other disorder, the person must have at least some desire to change. The counselor can not force change! The following above outline and the brief summary below will give some basic Biblical principles in treating this disorder. The counselor is in a unique position to bring truth of the Word into the picture. See: Preparation For Success. The counselor should understand, "And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free" (John 8:32).
First, the counselor must teach the counselee the fear of the LORD.The counselor needs to be filled with the Holy Spirit, discernment, and wisdom when he counselors an individual with a antisocial disorder. See: The Anointing Breaks The Yoke. The counselor needs to bind the powers of the enemy that the individual may be free to receive the truth. See: Salvation Through Binding. The counselor need to make sure that the individual is saved. See: Find, Life, Purpose, And Joy. The counselor needs to be able to effectively cast down strongholds and bring freedom to the individual. See: Get A Clear Conscience & The Open Door. The counselor should use illustrations from Scripture and life to communicate the truth. Of course, it is important for the counselor to also lead the individual through emotional healing. See: Steps to Receive Emotional Healing. The counselor should also be able to lead the individual through breaking generational curses. See: How To Destroy The Evil Tree. The counselor should understand the principles of spiritual warfare. See: Spiritual Warfare. The counselor should remember that there is a spiritual battle with a real enemy, but that the individual he is counseling is not the enemy. The person he is counseling is simply an individual that the devil has taken captive. "In meekness instructing those that oppose themselves; if God peradventure will give them repentance to the acknowledging of the truth; And that they may recover themselves out of the snare of the devil, who are taken captive by him at his will" (II Timothy 2:25-26).
Second, the counselor must lead the counselee to get a clear conscience for all past sin.
Third, the counselor must lead the counselee to understand that temptation is not sin.
Fourth, the counselor should show that Jesus was tempted in every way that we are.
Fifth, the counselor needs to lead the individual to understand that Jesus overcame the temptation by using the Word against the tempter.
Sixth, the counselor should communicate to the counselee that Jesus died for all our sin.
Seventh, the counselor needs to lead the counselee to submit himself unto the Lord.
Eighth, the counselor needs to teach the counselee that Jesus resisted Satan.
Ninth, the counselor must lead the counselee to engraft God's Word.
Tenth, the counselor should teach the person to counter attack.