Breaking Unhealthy
Soul Ties

The Cutting 

Umbilical Cord

    One night I had a rather busy mind when I went to bed and was having some difficulty falling asleep, so I prayed asking the Lord what I should be thinking on.  Shortly thereafter I fell into a deep sleep.  I had a dream that I believe that was of the Lord.  I was in a bedroom and there was a very small child, maybe an infant, laying on the bed. The little girl was very sick and dying.  I remember looking and her chest was partly uncovered and I could her upper skeleton through the skin.  She was wasting away.  Her neck was long and extremely small.  Her head and body was limp from a lack of strength.  No one was standing or setting near her.  There was a man in the room, maybe her father, but he had given up on her living. Her mother was not in the room at the moment.

    In great compassion and distress, I went to her.  I covered her and tightly wrapped the blanket around her.  I put my arms around her crying out for God to heal her.  I think that someone asked me why I was doing what I was doing because she was hopelessly dying.  I stepped back a few feet, looking at the motionless child.  Then her mother walked into the room but stood at a distance away from the child.  I looked back at the child and she began to move.  The little girl crawled out of the blanket, set up with her legs crossed and began to look healthy and smile.   I shortly awaken from the dream and began to pray about it believing it is of the Lord.

    This can be seen as a picture of an unhealthy soul tie; however, soul ties can either be healthy or unhealthy.  

I. Healthy Soul Ties.

A. Marriage relationships.

"Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh"  (Genesis 2:24).  (This is a picture of a proper marriage relationship). 

"And he answered and said unto them,  Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?  Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder"  (Matthew 19:4-6).

B. Parent and child relationships.

"And he shall turn the heart of the fathers to the children, and the heart of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse"  (Malachi 4:6).

C. Brotherly relationships.

"And it came to pass, when he had made an end of speaking unto Saul, that the soul of Jonathan was knit with the soul of David, and Jonathan loved him as his own soul.  And Saul took him that day, and would let him go no more home to his father's house.  Then Jonathan and David made a covenant, because he loved him as his own soul"  (I Samuel 18:1-3).

"Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone?  And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken"  (Ecclesiastes 4:12).

"Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends"  (John 15:13).

D. Spiritual relationships.

"Again I say unto you, That if two of you shall agree on earth as touching any thing that they shall ask, it shall be done for them of my Father which is in heaven. For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them"  (Matthew 18:19-20).

"And the multitude of them that believed were of one heart and of one soul: neither said any of them that ought of the things which he possessed was his own; but they had all things common"  (Acts 4:32).

E. Church Body relationships.

"For as we have many members in one body, and all members have not the same office:  So we, being many, are one body in Christ, and every one members one of another"  (Romans 12:4-5).

"As we have therefore opportunity, let us do good unto all men, especially unto them who are of the household of faith"  (Galatians 6:10).

"And not holding the Head, from which all the body by joints and bands having nourishment ministered, and knit together, increaseth with the increase of God"  (Colossians 2:19).

II. Unhealthy Soul Ties.

A. Relationships with unbelievers.

"Blessed is the man that walketh not in the counsel of the ungodly, nor standeth in the way of sinners, nor sitteth in the seat of the scornful"  (Psalms 1:1).

"Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?  And what agreement hath the temple of God with idols? for ye are the temple of the living God; as God hath said, I will dwell in them, and walk in them; and I will be their God, and they shall be my people.  Wherefore come out from among them, and be ye separate, saith the Lord, and touch not the unclean thing; and I will receive you,  And will be a Father unto you, and ye shall be my sons and daughters, saith the Lord Almighty"  (II Corinthians 6:14-18). 

"Make no friendship with an angry man; and with a furious man thou shalt not go:  Lest thou learn his ways, and get a snare to thy soul"  (Proverbs 22:24-25).

"Go from the presence of a foolish man, when thou perceivest not in him the lips of knowledge"  (Proverbs 14:7).

Parent and child relationships.

"For I have told him that I will judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth; because his sons made themselves vile, and he restrained them not"  (I Samuel 3:13).  Eli, the priest, failed to discipline his sons for their ungodly relationships because he wanted his son's approval.

"Then Adonijah the son of Haggith exalted himself, saying, I will be king: and he prepared him chariots and horsemen, and fifty men to run before him.  And his father had not displeased him at any time in saying, Why hast thou done so? and he also was a very goodly man; and his mother bare him after Absalom. And he conferred with Joab the son of Zeruiah, and with Abiathar the priest: and they following Adonijah helped him"  (I Kings 1:5-7).  Haggith failed to discipline his son.

Sexual relationships outside of marriage.

"And when Shechem the son of Hamor the Hivite, prince of the country, saw her, he took her, and lay with her, and defiled her. And his soul clave unto Dinah the daughter of Jacob, and he loved the damsel, and spake kindly unto the damsel"  (Genesis 34:2-3).  "And Hamor communed with them, saying, The soul of my son Shechem longeth for your daughter: I pray you give her him to wife"  (Genesis 34:8).

"What? know ye not that he which is joined to an harlot is one body? for two, saith he, shall be one flesh"  (I Corinthians 6:16).

"I wrote unto you in an epistle not to company with fornicators"  (I Corinthians 5:9).

III. Interpretation:

This child in my dream could be any of us by application, man or woman, boy or girl, infant, or unborn child in the womb. It is a picture of an unhealthy and ungodly soul ties.  Soul ties develop where there is an inappropriate attachment (mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual attachments) to another person.  We should break all unhealthy attachment to others.

1. An unhealthy soul tie may occur with anyone abandoned by their father or mother and they come resentment or have hate toward their parents.  The person may also feel compelled to find and force himself or herself into an unwanted relationship.

2. An unhealthy soul tie often come out of the sin of fornication.  Fornication is a sexual relationship before marriage.  The individual will often compare their sexual partner with person they marry.

3.  An unhealthy soul tie can developed in marriage when there are co-dependent or possessive relationships.  This is not to say that the couple are not to compliment each other and help each other.

4. An unhealthy soul tie often develops when a young adult or older adult becomes solely dependent upon his or her parents.

5. An unhealthy soul tie occurs when someone has offended us and we are holding unforgiveness toward them.

6. An unhealthy soul tie occurs when someone holds on to someone who is dying or continues to hold to the person after their death.

7. An unhealthy soul tie occurs when someone holds on and tries to control (or fix) their children after they reach adulthood.

An unhealthy soul tie may form when someone idolizes another individual.

An unhealthy soul tie occurs often occurs through divorce and remarriage.  In the new marriage, one will often have a unhealthy soul tie to their previous marriage partner either through love or hate.

10. An unhealthy soul tie may develop through an intensive dating relationship.  It it may become very hurtful to one or both individuals when love is not reciprocated and there is a breakup.

11. An unhealthy soul tie will develop anytime there is an adulterous relationship.  The can be an emotional attachment as well as a sexual relationship.

 IV. Scriptural Study:  Ezekiel 16:1ff
"Again the word of the LORD came unto me, saying,  Son of man, cause Jerusalem to know her abominations,  (Ezekiel 16:1-2)

"And say, Thus saith the Lord GOD unto Jerusalem; Thy birth and thy nativity is of the land of Canaan; thy father was an Amorite, and thy mother an Hittite"  (Ezekiel 16:3).

JERUSALEM = "Teaching of Peace" or "city of peace."
God wanted Jerusalem to find her identity in Him through her name.  God has called us into His peace through Jesus.  We also are to find our identity in the peace that Jesus gives us.
BIRTH AND NATIVITY = Canaan = "merchant."  It was a strange land that was to become the promise land.
It is a picture of being born in the world.  Each of us live in the world where unhealthy soul ties develop.  You may have come out of a family which was performance oriented and didn't have time for personal relationships.
FATHER AN AMORITE = "sayer" = The Amorites were know for their wickedness down to the fourth generation.
Maybe your father said a lot, making promises, but never kept them.  You may have had your spouse, children, or parents also break promises they made to you and you have developed an unhealthy relationship with them.  Again, there is a difference between unhealthy relationship and healthy relationships.
MOTHER AN HITTITE = "terror" or "fear"  = The Hittites were know for their cruelty.
Maybe someone here had a mother that was fearful and would fly off the handle at the drop of the hat. Maybe one day she would be O.K., but the next day should would be in a rage and maybe you got the blunt of her terror.
"And as for thy nativity, in the day thou wast born thy navel was not cut, neither wast thou washed in water to supple thee; thou wast not salted at all, nor swaddled at all"  (Ezekiel 16:4).
THE NAVEL WAS NOT CUT = The umbilical cord was still attached.  There is an unhealthy attachment and it leads to death.
By cutting the umbilical cord, the child is freed after birth from the blood of the mother, with which it was nourished in the womb. If the cutting is not done, as well as the tying off of the navel-string, which takes place at the same time, the child will perish when the decomposition of the placenta begins.

The problem is that many people are still bound by generational curses.  These are curses that have been passed down from one generational to the next.  The umbilical cord is still attached.  They are bound by their birth and early childhood experiences.  It is like that they are dragging a ball and chain around with them wherever they go.

The umbilical card in this passage may also be a picture of unhealthy and ungodly soul ties.  Such ties are destructive to individuals.  These unhealthy attachments lead to anger, depression, and even at times to attempts of suicide or homicide. 

These attachments need to be cut!

The dried blood upon the new born would crust over the child if the child was not washed to soften the skin..  The word "SUPPLE" means to make compliant.  It is a picture of a mother persisting till she had suppled (softens) the will of her daughter.

Maybe your mother or father didn't try to win your heart.  Maybe as new parent they were afraid of you.  Maybe you were a hindrance to what they had planned for themselves.  Maybe they were just to busy to spend time with you.  Maybe they simply didn't know how to love you.  Maybe because of this you hardened your heart toward them and toward life.

Salt or salt water was used to purify the body and protect the skin.

Maybe you were not protected from the harsh environment into which you were born.

The swaddling cloths was not wrapped around the child.  This swaddling clothes were to provide security, warmth, comfort, and protection for the tender skin of the child.

Maybe you didn't feel the security, warmth, comfort, or protection that your parents should have provided.

"None eye pitied thee, to do any of these unto thee, to have compassion upon thee; but thou wast cast out in the open field, to the lothing of thy person, in the day that thou wast born"  (Ezekiel 16:5).
The word "pity" means to spare or regard.  The word "compassion" means to have pity on.
The idea of being "cast out" means to be thrown away and as being seen as having no value. The child is cast into an open field away from anyone, all alone.  It is away from any shelter or protection from the elements.

The expression "to the loathing' means "abhorring" or to be seen as an abomination.  It is more than just rejecting the child, it looking down upon the child as on who is worthy of being rejected.

"And when I passed by thee, and saw thee polluted in thine own blood, I said unto thee when thou wast in thy blood, Live; yea, I said unto thee when thou wast in thy blood, Live."  (Ezekiel 16:6).
Many become contaminated through their birth and early childhood experiences.  They are lonely.  They are depressed.  They are unforgiving toward their parents and bitter about life in general.  They have a negative, hopeless attitude. They are angry, even when they know that they shouldn't be.  They feel that they are outcast. They may be mentally and emotionally dying and even physically dying.  Maybe you relate!

However, God sees where you are.   He says, "LIVE!"   He wants to give you life even where you are!

Ezekiel 16:7-19 speaks of how God blessed Jerusalem.  I believe that God desires to bless you in the same fashion.

V. How Do We Break The Soul Ties?

A. Pray and ask God to reveal the unhealthy soul ties.

B. Recognize that the unhealthy soul ties are harmful to you and to others.

C. Understand that Jesus is the substitute for all our sins, including unhealthy soul ties.

D. Confess the sin of unhealthy soul ties and ask for forgiveness for making the soul ties and any wrong actions on your part as a result of the soul ties..

E. Ask God to restore the ground that the enemy has taken as result of the unhealthy soul ties.

G. Take authority over any evil spirits that have entered because of the soul ties and bind them and command they leave.

H. Declare that in the name of Jesus that the unhealthy soul ties are broken.

I. Ask God to bring healing for the emotional wounds that have occurred associated with the soul ties.

VI.  A Scriptural Basic For Ministering The Breaking Of Soul Ties To Others.
"And the LORD spake unto Moses, saying, Speak unto the children of Israel, and bid them that they make them fringes in the borders of their garments throughout their generations, and that they put upon the fringe of the borders a ribband of blue: And it shall be unto you for a fringe, that ye may look upon it, and remember all the commandments of the LORD, and do them; and that ye seek not after your own heart and your own eyes, after which ye use to go a whoring:  That ye may remember, and do all my commandments, and be holy unto your God"  (Numbers 15:37-40).
This is like a prayer shawl called the "tallit" .
The word "border" or hem also can be translated "wing".  
The hem also has a tassel in each of the four corners and the Hebrew word is "tsee-tseeth'".

There are five double knots made up of eight strands.  Word hem in Hebrew numbers means 600 = thus 600 + 5 + 8 = 613.  Which is the number of the commandments in the Law. Ref. "Touching The Hem" by Gregory Dickow.

"But unto you that fear my name shall the Sun of righteousness arise with healing in his wings; and ye shall go forth, and grow up as calves of the stall"  (Malachi 4:2).
The Sun of righteousness refers to Jesus. His prayer shawl with the four corners can be seen here in that Jesus fulfilled all the commandments.  Jesus becomes the righteousness of the Believer.

"But thou, when thou prayest, enter into thy closet, and when thou hast shut thy door, pray to thy Father which is in secret; and thy Father which seeth in secret shall reward thee openly"  (Matthew 6:6).  Traditionally, the tallit is placed over the head of the individual and pulled closed as a closet door.

"And, behold, a woman, which was diseased with an issue of blood twelve years, came behind him, and touched the hem of his garment: For she said within herself, If I may but touch his garment, I shall be whole.  But Jesus turned him about, and when he saw her, he said, Daughter, be of good comfort; thy faith hath made thee whole. And the woman was made whole from that hour"  (Matthew 9:20-22).

She was touching the GRACE of God. I see the 5 knots being the grace of God. The fulfillment of the Law. She was not healed because of her own righteousness, but she was healed as she touched the righteousness of God in Christ.  She had to reach out to do it in faith.

"And besought him that they might only touch the hem of his garment: and as many as touched were made perfectly whole"  (Matthew 14:36).   Touching the hem of the garment of Jesus is again mentioned in relation to healing.

A. Using the Tallit.
1. Ask the individual, "Do you see yourself bound by your birth or childhood experience or an unhealthy soul tie."

2. Ask God to break the soul ties.

3. Ask God to wash the individual with His Word of truth.

4. Ask God to give the individual Grace (salt) for purification and protection.

5. Wrap the shawl = tallit about the individual.  See yourself being swaddled by the righteousness of God. Ask God to care and prosper you.

******Note:  God adopts everyone who accepts Jesus as Lord and saviour.

B.  Make the following healing declarations over the individual.

1. God has called you into His Peace = teach you of His Peace.

2. God will take you up and adopt you into His Kingdom.

3. God will cut the umbilical cord of you birth and childhood.

4. God will wash you with His Word of truth.

5. God will care for you and protect you.

6. God will use His grace (salt) to set you free from the infection under the law.  "The Salt Covenant".

7. God will swaddle you in His righteousness.

8. God wants to heal and prosper you.

9. God says to you "Live".